Men who are virgins generally fall into two categories: the ones that are saving themselves for marriage and those who simply can’t seem to find a willing partner. Men that are saving themselves for marriage do so for either religious or moral beliefs, or both. Generally, they choose a partner with the same beliefs and the two work it out post nuptials. As for the men that have not chosen this lifestyle, they may feel they are in what we call “the virginity trap”.
How do we Define Virginity?
In women the loss of virginity is pretty clear. Once a penis penetrates the vagina, breaking the hymen, the woman is no longer considered a virgin. But is straightforward intercourse the only way a person can lose their virginity? Sex comes in all varieties, traditional, oral and anal. Some believe that if they only engage in oral or anal sex, that they are still considered virgins. Technically this is not true. Sex is sex, however you go about it.
What is the Average Age Men Lose Their Virginity?
The average age men lose their virginity is at about 17 years old. Keep in mind that this is just an average, and if you are one of those older guys out there wondering if there’s hope for you, there is. Men generally lose their virginity before women because first, they tend not to hold virginity as sacred as women, and second, because their hormones are at their peak at this time.
So how do I get out of the Virginity Trap?
First of all, quit trying so hard. Women are attracted to confident men. If the subject of sex comes up, try simply being honest. Some women are actually really turned on by the fact that they would be your first. Some may not be as enthusiastic, but once you find the right woman, your cherry has been popped and it isn’t an issue anymore.
On the flip side, if you are one of those guys that has simply given up and thrown in the towel, then it is time to get back out there. The same advice goes for you too. Be confident in yourself and let the lady do the leading this once.
After the deed is done, probably a whole minute or two later, recover and go back for more. Your partner will be happy with your enthusiasm and round two will undoubtedly last longer than the first. This is your time to shine. Use what you’ve learned and keep an open mind to learn more and your future romps in the sack will just keep getting better and better.